Posts Tagged ‘christian charity’

Corriejo said,

Do you not see that you are doing more harm than good? Belittling the important role of ezer by calling your [imaginary] wife “the best little helper”? I agree with “whatsername” that it sounds like you are referring to a pet instead of an adult woman.

I call my 4 yr old daughter “my little helper” because she IS little. But, I wouldn’t dare call my 17 yr old daughter “my little helper”, not because she is large (she is petite) but because she is so MUCH MORE than some little helper that stands there handing me the wrench when I need it.

The meaning of ezer implies strength and NOT junior assistant. Your wife is your strength. God is referred to as our “ezer” 26 times in the Old Testament. Is He also your “best little helper”? Is the Holy Spirit, the Helper, also your “best little helper” made for your own personal use?

You are clearly not understanding that Hebrew meaning of the English word translated “helper” when you use that demeaning terminology.

Also, no human being was made for the “use” of another human being. We were created to SERVE others but others were not created to be used by us. Your role as a husband is one of love and servanthood and dying to your own SELF and one of being concerned with how YOU may please your [imaginary] wife.

Christ put the emphasis on servanthood but patriocentrists put the emphasis on being served. When you look at women in this way you are not looking at them the way that God had intended.

What is your goal with using this sort of unbiblical terminology and eisegesis? Do you think it proves something when you get people angry with your words? Does that prove you must be right? Or could it mean that you are just offensive?

Q. How many feminists does it take to replace a light bulb?

A. That’s not funny.

Oh, Corriejo, for goodness sake lighten up. Please tell me you aren’t this sensitive to your own husband? Is the man afraid to compliment you? Are you teaching your daughters to be equally sensitive toward those who would compliment them, assigning and assuming motives based upon the least charitable interpretation of their words?

I may not be particularly petite, but I certainly don’t take offense at being called “little” by a man who is significantly taller and more muscular than I am. My husband treats me with love and respect, and because of our relationship I understand that there is nothing demeaning or belittling in his use of the word “little.”

Maybe you don’t have the same context for interpreting my husband’s words, but remember Molleth’s exhortation to “consider the actual claims in the least biased way?” Shouldn’t you grant my husband the same courtesy? Shouldn’t you interpret the words of our Christian brothers and sisters in the least biased way possible?

I’m thankful that my Big Hunka Man doesn’t judge my compliments to him as harshly as you judge his compliments toward me.  This would be a cold and lonely house if we judged each other with so much suspicion.